The most important thing we can do as parents and grandparents, is to speak to your children as if they are the wisest, kindest, most beautiful and magical humans on earth, for what they believe is what they become. Now, just imagine for a moment, speaking the same things to ourselves daily, what a wonderful astounding world this would be to live in!
I remember a few times growing up when my mother, would make a big deal out of the fact we would shop in the chubby section. Imagine what that does to a young girls emotional state. Nope, we cant shop in the normal section for clothing, but, we have to shop in the chubby section. First of all, why in the hell would a store name a clothing section chubby anyway? Times were different in the 70’s for sure. I was constantly shammed about the food I could and could not eat. To the point that I developed a case of anorexia. In high school I was 6’2 and weighed 140. I was all skin and bones. I was ashamed about how I looked and thought I weighed 300 pounds! I know my mother did the best she could. I do not sing the blame song.
I NEVER wanted to shame my boys for anything they did or did not do. Much less the food they ate! We all have emotional baggage and I truly believe we can break the cycle of our parents. The more conscientious we are of our word choices, the better. However, it all takes great work and effort to pay attention to what you are paying attention to.
Remember this, good energy is contagious and you never know you needs you! So the more we pay attention to our words and the kinder we are to one another, the better our world will be! It all begins with the power of one and the words we speak!~Shirene