Here is a question to ponder, we school our children in history, math and language, BUT forget about happiness, respect, strength and health…..in my opinion, the most important values in life.
Why is it that these values are not important? I think the huge disconnect in our society began when we began to choose things over people. My BMW, or my new Luis Vuitton $8500 bag really loves me ……….said NO ONE EVER! All these things used to matter to me, until I had my first child. It was beaten into my head that I must have an amazing career and to hell with the family. See that was the role model I had grown up with. She was not my biological mind you. But non the less, it was my role model in my immediate family. My grandmother was from another era and she took care of the family. So, I literally was caught in the middle of both fabulous worlds.
When I had my first son, all that mattered was that child. I wanted to stay home and be the most amazing mother I had ever known and truly wanted. The life of stuff as I had known it, was over. I wanted the best for my child and soon two sons that they were the only thing that mattered. I could eat mac n cheese for the rest of my life if it meant I could be there for them and develop two amazing humans. Which by the way, they are the best humans that I know. Soon after my second son was born, their father and I divorced. There I was, no job and a stay at home mom. How could I reinvent myself so I could remain home with them and be the best mother ever?
I started my own business and developed other women to be able to be home with their families just like me. I arranged my schedule so I really only worked when they were with their father. The rest of the time we were together playing and having fun. I instilled good values and morals in my boys. We sat at the table for every meal and did not sit in front of the television. We talked about anything and everything. I spoke about sex and all that could drag along with that since they were barely walking. My boys will not be fathers at a young age! I am not and will not judge others, I just know what is acceptable for my family.
I taught by example what it is to manifest your best life and not just accept mediocrity. I taught my boys to always want more from life, by that I mean excitement, adventure, experiences and above all, stamps in your passport. Since they were little they have relatively been self sufficient like I was growing up. They put them selves through college, bought and paid for their own vehicles, I can honestly say, I do not remember a time when either asked for money. I have purchased groceries and other things for them not because they asked, but because I want to and it is important to me.
One of the most important things I think I have instilled in them is the importance of inner dialogue. I believe that this is our key to happiness, respect, health and strength. What we say to ourselves constantly is more important that the things we do and say with our outside voice. I have always told them that in our family, if we can dream it, we can do it! We will never use the words try or cant. Even today, when one of them says, if I do this………then they catch themselves or I rephrase their words for them. Claim it as it is already yours! No exceptions. When I………I am……….I will……….are all words to claim it as already yours!
I am on a mission to instill this to the world………….stand back and watch me go! I will have every child believing in the power of The Super Mero and believing they are happy and be able to carry that strength throughout their lives. Yes, they will stumble, but be able to get right back up and continue on in the world! No child ever just stood up at the age of 9 months and walked like he had been walking all his life. Every child gets up and falls down 20 hundred times! We must carry this thought through out our lives that it is OK to fall, we just need to get back up and keep going and stop beating ourselves up.
Yes, math, history, and language are all important, but lets remember to instill values of strength, respect, health, and happiness in our children. Without the latter, all we have is stuff and at the end of the day, who needs more stuff!~Shirene